Ahh, what to do when you hate your job, but you're not quite ready to leave. Been there! This episode was adapted from my blog post, originally posted on April 20, 2015. There's a light at the end of the tunnel, promise. I hope this helps. The Sunday Night Blues is a real thing. Seriously, a Monster.com poll found that 78 percent of respondents have experienced the end-of-weekend sadness, and 47 percent claimed it was really bad.Honestly, that sucks. We should love what we do Monday through Friday, but the reality is sometimes we don’t even know what it is we love. So even if we wanted to change our situation, we wouldn’t know where to look.On the flip side, we know where we want to go, but financially we just can’t make the move yet. I remember when I started to feel the itch to leave my first magazine job. I had hit a ceiling, and it just wasn’t fulfilling anymore. But I also couldn’t leave. I had no idea where I would go and I need cash money to pay my bills.So what I decided to do was pick up freelance work on the side in order to build a steady stream of work that could help me the get the F out. Thankfully, I was able to get a lot of work, but that also meant working late at night and on weekends while I still worked a full-time job. It was rough. After a few months of working like a mad woman, I scored enough steady freelance work where I was able to leave my full-time job sans the anxiety.Every situation is different, but I do have some advice for you, work hater, because I’ve been there more times than I’d like to admit. If you’re going to be “stuck” at your current place of hire, you might as well make the best of it, and here’s how you can do that.1. Find the GratitudeI know it’s hard to find the good in your shitty situation, but there is some good. Right now you’re focusing on the bad. And the truth is, there probably is a lot of bad, but tell me about the good. Where is the silver lining? There are always little cubbies of good. Perhaps you love your coworkers? Perhaps the gig gives you enough money to pay for your book habit? Whatever it may be, find it, and then keep your focus there. Whenever you see your find wandering to the negative, think of the good it brings you.When I was an editor at DailyCandy.com, I already knew I wanted to help women in some sort of way. I knew I wasn’t going to be an editor forever; I just didn’t know what my next step was. Instead of getting caught up in “where am I going” and “what am I doing,” I would think of all the people I was helping by writing about their new business. I would interview locals who were really passionate about something and ultimately made it their job. The article I wrote would give them exposure, bring them new clients, and ultimately fueled their passion. That made me happy. Above the surface, I knew it didn’t look like I was doing much more than writing about rompers, cupcakes, and the best happy hour spots, but I knew the truth. Find the things you’re thankful for in your current position, and keep your eye there will you find Plan B.2. What’s the Lesson?Many times we think that something outside of us needs to change in order to be happier. I write about this often. But in every challenge, there is a lesson waiting to be learned. There is always an opportunity for growth.Instead of jumping to the next thing, ask yourself, “how can you learn from this situation?” Maybe you’re really over you boss because he’s disrespectful and doesn’t see your value. Chances are this is a pattern in your life. Instead of simply running away, how can you triumph? Can you start being clear about what you need? Can you begin to stand up for yourself? Can you value yourself more?Or maybe your coworkers are drama, drama, drama. How can you not get involved in that? Can you be completely authentic, and only speak truth?This hard time can be a really great time to learn and grow. The best part? Once you learn the lesson, the next step will show itself.3. Start ExploringIf you can’t leave your job because you don’t know where to go, this is the time when you need to explore. Start taking classes, reading books, meeting new friends. Actively look for that thing that makes you happy. Start creating. Start expressing. You have of a steady income right now, which means you have the luxury to create without feeling like it needs to make you money asap. There’s nothing like no money in the bank to kill your creativity. Use this time wisely, says your wise 30-something friend.If you already have your side hustle on, run like the wind! That’s what my husband always tells me. It’s cheesy, I know, but it’s true. What he means is… just go! This is your time to kill it!I know your biggest concern is time, but believe me, you can make it. And yes, it will suck, but spending all your time on your side hustle is an investment in yourself. It won’t always be like this. You will have a life again. But there are times in our lives where we need to buckle down, put blinders on, and go. You’ll come out of it soon, and the light will look brighter than ever.And no excuses, okay? You’re talking to the girl who would wake up at 4:30am in the morning, every morning for four months to write a book before her nine-month-old would wake up. I’m sorry, I don’t feel bad for you, but that’s only because I love you and believe in you. Blinders.If you want to get deeper in the topic, check out my YouTube video.
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