768: How to set boundaries that set you free

Establishing boundaries can feel intimidating if you’ve never successfully set them before, so why are they so important when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships? Why does a lack of boundaries often lead to undesirable outcomes? What formula can you follow to start setting boundaries today? We’ll answer all those questions this episode.


What to Listen For
What is causing most of the problems in your communication and how can you become more aware of them?
Why is it important to set boundaries early on and how do you set boundaries respectfully?
How can you be more proactive in dealing with conflict?
Who is more likely to win in arguments and why does it not matter in the way you might think it does?
What is the best way to approach someone who refuses to acknowledge clearly defined boundaries?
Why does a lack of boundaries lead to resentment?
How does too much freedom in a relationship lead to you feeling miserable?
Why is it important to have clearly defined boundaries between home and work if you don’t have a dedicated work space and how can a lack of boundaries be detrimental to your productivity and your personal relationships?
How can you be assertive without coming across as disrespectful?
What formula can you follow to establish clear boundaries in your relationships and how can you make it a respectful cooperative effort?


Setting boundaries in a relationship can feel like you are telling someone how to act - but in reality, setting and enforcing healthy boundaries allows you to be comfortable being yourself while communicating who you are and who you want to be to the people you care about. We all have different definitions of what it means to treat someone well and respect their time, so if you don’t communicate YOUR definition of what that is, don’t assume people can read it directly from your mind.


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Resources from this Episode
Episode 767: How to master communication in a relationship
Episode 725: Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael Ventura


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