359: Adverse Childhood Experiences and Resilience (Part 5 - Elephant In the Room)

With Wes Bertrand and Matt Amberson Discussed Today: -If there is a Liberty Movement, is it moving? Why not? -NVC and trauma: Rosenberg’s disconnection (and lack of philosophical clarity) -recent ”mind control” and “manipulation” claims -the trauma cycle: shame, dishonesty (with self and others), more shame, inauthenticity, defense and disconnection -how to heal, the 7th Pillar of Self-Esteem 6 PSYCHOLOGICAL WOUNDS (from unmet needs): 1-formation of a false-self (in order to survive) 2-excessive shame 3-excessive guilt 4-excessive fears 5-reality distortion (like denial) 6-problems with trust (trusting too easily and being or not trusting trustworthy people and being isolated) 7-difficulty feeling your emotions; being numb—and/or difficulty bonding with others and tolerating healthy intimacy REQUISITES FOR RECOVERY: -awareness… -knowledge… -recruit inner strength -focusing on many inner resources -motivation (speaks to hitting bottom, not trial bottom or pseudo-recovery)—usually between 35-45yo -need to be in a pro-recovery environment, a functional setting with advocates of healing and growth -IFS (or inner-family therapy)…work with subselves involved in and causing wounds and have them integrate with true-self BENEFITS OF RECOVERY as you free your true-self to make more life decisions: -more serenity and less stress, yielding happiness -increase in self-confidence and decrease in self-doubt -confusion decreases, and clear vision increases -decrease in impulsive behavior, and increase in thoughtful, intentional actions -noticeably improved self-care (including emotional) -frequency and duration of depressive episodes reduce and feel “good enough,” centered, grounded, resourceful, and joyful -sleep better (fewer wake-ups, mind racing, bad dreams) -excessive guilt and shame shrink, replaced by self-grounded, clear, serene, etc. -increasing clarity on life purpose -communicate more effectively, healthy self-assertiveness -general quality of relationships in your life will increase as a theme, less fighting, stress, anxiety and more win/win problem solving -hope for a better life goes up, way up Look Closer: Amazon.com Widgets Amazon.com Widgets Complete Liberty Inside Out: Honoring Yourself and Others for Optimal Enrichment - http://amzn.to/1B1CdFo Wes: CompleteLiberty.com/ - http://completeliberty.com/ Complete Liberty Series on trauma - http://completeliberty.com/magazine/read/episode-209---the-nature-of-trauma-and-nonviolent-change-and-self-compassion_296.html Matt: DeadEasyLife.com - http://deadeasylife.com/ Linking childhood trauma to long-term health and social consequences: What is The ACE Study? - http://www.acestudy.org/ AcesTooHigh.com/ - http://acestoohigh.com/ Happiness Counseling Resources - http://happinesscounseling.com/happiness-resources/ CLP Episode 212 - Adverse Childhood Experiences and reflections on therapeutic solutions - http://completeliberty.com/magazine/read/episode-212---adverse-childhood-experiences-and-reflections-on-therapeutic-solutions_299.html The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma - http://www.amazon.com/The-Body-Keeps-Score-Healing/dp/0670785938 Peter Gerlack on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCegNhGTqlWjgOqaCsj_7pxw Please Support School Sucks Our Amazon Wish List Donate With Bitcoin Or Join the A/V Club Your continued support keeps the show going and growing, which keeps us at the top of the options for education podcasts and leads to new people discovering this message. This subscription also grants you access to the A/V Club, a bonus content section with 200+ hours of exclusive audio and video. If you are a regular consumer of our media, please consider making a monthly commitment by selecting the best option for you... Join the A/V Club! $6.00/Month Join the A/V Club! $9.00/Month Join the A/V Club! $12/Month