2: The Secrets of a Magical Relationship with Abi Fox

Welcome to Episode 2 of the Curiously You Podcast!
In this Episode of the Curiously You podcast we are speaking with soul empowerment coach Abi Fox.
Abi is a self-confessed lover of speaking about authenticity in relationships, and in this episode we dive deep into her story, and how not all that long ago she was in a place of feeling like she had no love for herself: and that all her outward romantic relationships reflected that.
We speak about her past and the lessons she learned in order to open up and deeply connect with her soulmate Mogli whom, when she first met him, they did not even realise they were destined to be together. So how do we even reach this point in the first place? We speak about reaching a crisis point, and acting from a place of desperation or inspiration, how we need to focus on ourselves first and heal our relationship with our parents and ourselves before we can be ready for a romantic partner.
Then there’s the big killer of happiness in relationships: resentment, and what we can do to cut it off while it brews as frustration. This leads into the importance of awareness of ourselves and how we like to connect in relationships so we can build the best communication language with our partner.
We discuss the purpose of relationships and the importance of being open-hearted and vulnerable - sharing our feelings and fears in our heart as true to ourselves.
Time Stamped Show Notes
3:55 Abi’s story, how she had it all on paper but inside felt like a very lost and lonely girl, lacking self-confidence and self-worth
5:41 Crisis hit and believed she would be taken care of by her dad and hitting rock bottom.
8:11 Abi may have met her soul mate, but it would be 18 months of self-development work before she was ready to be with him romantically.
9:45 Reaching rock bottom, the turnaround.
10:23 Abi’s first few step major steps in making a change so you are ready for your soul mate
12:33 Why Abi reached rock bottom in order to make the change, but is doesn’t have to be that way every time.
14:04 Abi’s the next step to making changes
16:05 The ways we find to protect ourselves from being hurt in relationships and how Abi accesses these parts of herself for a positive ripple effect in her outside world
18:57 How we cannot have a healthy relationship with our SO until we heal the relationship with our parents, and how to do this
22:38 How to forgive ourselves, and by extension others and the benefits this brings to our lives
26:38 What is resentment, and how can we avoid reaching this point.
32:34 Abi’s story of building self-awareness into her relationship and how you can do the same to heal past hurts and create a more authentic connection
38:08 How Abi feels ‘next level happy’ in her relationship
42:39 How seeing that every relationship has a purpose will enable you to let go of control, be authentic and grow as a person, and as a couple
45:18 The questions you need to ask yourself when you struggle to communicate with your partner, and the differences in how men and women communicate
Key Take Homes
We must find a way to heal our old wounds and work on our self-worth before we can be ready to attract our soul-mate into our life.
When we build self-awareness, we start to know what stories and scripts we are bringing into our relationship. This helps us move past hurt, angry and resentment faster and to a place of acceptance, forgiveness, and love.
Men and women have different ways of communicating and sharing their loving feelings, understanding your partner’s way of communicating will bring you closer together.
Curious Question
Are you acting from a place of inspiration of desperation in your romantic life? If desperation, how can you use the tools Abi suggests in order to transition to taking inspired action?
Resources
Abi's website: www.abifox.com
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships: How to Get What You Want in Your Relationships by John Gray